Why Men Get Better With Age

Part of the fun that comes with dating in your 30s is the prospect of dating older men. I have dated both younger and older men but find that because most girls mature faster than men, I find that expectations from both parties are better matched.  It’s not to say that all men in their early 20s aren’t capable of emotional maturity, it’s just that with age comes life experience. There is something very attractive knowing that a potential mate can teach you a thing or two. But there’s more to dating up (age wise) and here, our our guest contributors tell us why.

Self Confidence

Ella: The difference between a boy and a man is self confidence not arrogance (there’s a fine line). Men accept who they are and open themselves up to possibilities. A boy is someone who needs looking after but is arrogant or naive enough to think he doesn’t. A man is someone who doesn’t need looking after, but is humble and open enough to accept help when it’s offered. If you date a boy, you’ll try to work your ass off trying to help him become the man he could be, and you’ll never succeed. If you date a man, he will allow you to be the woman you are.

They Take Responsibility

Jack: Men take responsibility for every aspect of their lives. This includes ensuring they are financially secure, emotionally stable and they have a plan for the future. A man will rarely invite a partner into their lives unless they have all their ducks in a row. They’re ready to share a life with someone else and won’t do that unless they are ready in every way.

They Set Clear Intentions

Iona: A typical scenario for you: guy meets girl and they date for a few months. Girl thinks things are getting serious and at the 3 month mark, asks where this is going. To her surprise, guy tells her that he isn’t ready for a relationship – it’s a common tale. To avoid confronting the differences in their expectations, older men tend to set out their intentions from the get-go. Whether they are looking for a  fling or something serious, they will let you know.

Beyond Looks

Mick: When I was a younger all I wanted was a pretty girl. A girl my peers would envy. This lead me to going out with girls that weren’t me at all but my mates were impressed. Now that I’ve got older and hopefully wiser my focus has changed. My priorities are hang up minimisation (read girls are crazy) intellect and then looks. I would be lying if I said looks aren’t important they are just not the priority.

They Know What They Want

Amy: By the time we hit our 30s, most men would have dated a bevy of woman and young ladies. They are likely to know what they want and don’t want in a partner and they are not afraid to express it. Most of these are qualities and personality traits tend to go beyond looks. Of course, appearances matter but older men tend to seek substance, emotional connection.

So there you go – 5 pros in dating an older man. It’s not to say that there isn’t a downside (baggage, children, divorce…) but let’s save that for a different post.