How SMS Has Changed Courtship

Awwww…..That was my initial reaction when I saw it on Pinterest until I saw the caption- “It never happens in real life”. I grew up in the days where my friends and I would know each other’s numbers off by heart – an age where we didn’t have mobile phones and called each other on their landlines. If a boy wanted to ask us out, he’d have to do it in person or over the phone. Acts of romantic gestures were done in person so flash forward a decade plus some years later and this is what people are calling romantic…someone professing their love for another over the most impersonal way to communicate. We asked our guy panel what they thought of this image:

Mark: They never showed you the conversation that followed:

Her: omg! Him: yeah, I’ve always had feelings for you. All the time I’ve been thinking of you.

Her: that’s so sweet! Omg I’m so flattered. You’re such a great guy but we’re friends and I don’t want to sacrifice that. We have such a good thing going. You’re like a brother to me…

Him: omg FRIENDZONED.

Josh: It’s hard to comment on this without context. There is so much that would have happened before that was sent and so much depends on the person writing and receiving. The only way to do it is by putting myself in his/her shoes. He is either very young or very shy. But it is sweet nonetheless. Does it matter how someone confesses their love so long as it is confessed at all? If she felt the same she wouldn’t have cared how the message was delivered. I certainly wouldn’t. When Barbara Palvin sends me a text of winky face with an x after it I’ll marry her just the same as if she told me face to face which she will, once we meet.

Adam: He might be very shy but some things are better said in person.

Our girly two cents? It depends on the sender. If it’s someone we like, it doesn’t matter if they let us know via courier pigeon or SMS. It’d be great if you could organise a flash mob i.e. movie Friends with Benefits but hey, we understand it’s just a movie. So, if you are sure your feelings will be reciprocated, don’t sweat it. We’ll appreciate the gesture regardless.

Thoughts?