Study Says There’s A Man Drought

The numbers say there’s a man drought but is that relevant to you? Maybe not.

One of my male friends recently boasted that he was more desirable than ever because of a man drought in Sydney. For those of you who haven’t caught up on the stats, apparently women in their 30s outweigh men in the same age bracket. While these numbers about this man drought is true, now is really no time to panic. Even numbers are open to interpretation.

Let’s Talk Numbers

Those who know me well will know math is not my strongest point. But in this case, they are necessary. According to Australian Bureau of Statistics’ Data, Australia has 100,000 more females than males.Yes these numbers may cause alarm but when it comes to dating, the numbers don’t fall into place as neatly as math does. In Victoria, there are 98 men to every 100 women. While the numbers indicate there is more ‘competition’ truth is it doesn’t compare things like job status, socio economic status or geography. Say if you live in the East and 70 women out of the 100 live in the West, the odds aren’t really in your favour. It also doesn’t account for compatibility, personality, attractiveness…all the things that people look at in mate selection. Out of the 100 women, there will be a small percentage would be be a suitable match for you anyway (same goes for men) and so if you were to compare stats, it’d probably be best to comparable singles that are in the position to co-habit or marry.

My male friend may be basking in giddiness about the surplus of women but what he hasn’t realised is that it’s quality and not quantity. It’s true he technically has more ‘choice’ but not all of the choices will suit him.

Not convinced that numbers shouldn’t matter? The average age of divorce is around the 40-44year mark…if you’re looking to increase your ‘odds’, then it’s best to look at that age bracket.

Does it Really Affect You?

Numbers may skew reality but they don’t lie. I don’t ignore that there are more single women than men, what I do value is the number of good men vs good women. I have to say that I have not personally felt the affects of the ‘man’ drought. I’ve been fortunate to have great single male friends in the past year, many whom I’d recommend to a friend if I thought they were compatible. So to my single friends and readers – don’t worry about these stats and focus on becoming the type of person you’d like to meet. How you say?

Work Out What You Want

I’ve been guilty of this- of being so in love with the idea of being in love that I would look for a partner just to ‘fill a spot’ in my plan. I had no idea what I was looking for in a partner and didn’t even know I was clueless. It’s not till we work out what we want that we start attracting it so figure it out.

Don’t Obsess Over It

Get on with your life and don’t over think when you’ll meet the one. Build a rich life and don’t wait for someone else to come into your life to begin it. Your partner should be the icing on the cake, not your everything. It doesn’t matter how old you are – the relationship you need to work on, the relationship that will truly last a lifetime is the one you have with yourself. Work on that.

Don’t Stay Home

Whether you’re a 30 something male outnumbered by women, no one is going to find you if you spend your free time on the couch watching re-runs of GOT. Have a life and go out and live it. A bit shy? It should not replace meeting people in person but if you need to jump start your courage, try a reputable online dating site like eharmony. 32% of their male members are in NSW so if you’re Sydney based, the numbers are relatively good.

Lastly, numbers are open to interpretation. What you make out of these stats is up to you.