5 Traits of Likeable People
In my 30 something odd years of existence, I’ve met my share of likeable people. You know, the ones who bring a certain energy to the room, the kind of person you want to talk to whether it’s with romantic intentions or not. I’ve been lucky to meet so many of them and they all have these 5 traits in common.
- They Listen
We have two ears and one mouth, which means we should be listening more than speaking. Likeable people genuinely take time to listen to what you have to say. When you’re speaking to them, they’re not looking around to see who they can talk to next. They don’t interrupt you when you have an opinion to express. Whether it’s constructive criticism, great feedback or a challenge to what you’ve just said, they give your opinion considered thought. Listening shows you genuinely care about what others have to say – it’s a great skill to develop.
2. The Use Non-Verbal Communication
So much is said with body language and yet most of us under estimate it. Whether it’s a work or social situation, likeable people tend to have open body language making them very approachable. They don’t cross arms, they smile, they make eye contact. Pay attention to your posture the next time you meet someone new. Shake their hands firmly and look them in the eye when you introduce yourself. First impressions count and you only have a chance to make one.
3. They Don’t Make It About Them
I have a few acquaintances who can talk about themselves non-stop without asking me a single question. I often wonder if others have my kind of patience as I can only handle this type of people in small doses. Conversations are like a tennis match, there is meant to be some back and forth. Likeable people always show interest in you. When someone asks how you’ve been and you’ve just spent 10 minutes telling them about your latest holiday, don’t forget to ask the same question back. Take the time to build rapport – this is a great skill to have, especially if you’re in sales.
4. They are Human
In a time where we only share the best moments of our lives on social media, sometimes it’s refreshing to show your human side. Likeable people are humble and show it by making fun of their shortcomings. Ever wonder why Taylor Swift has grown such a huge fan base? A lot has to do with her talent but you can’t discredit how ‘real’ she is. She invites fans to her homes, she personally wraps Christmas presents for her fans and she admits to being a dork. Where celebrities often find themselves on a pedestal, Taylor Swift is very…relatable.
5. They Have Good Intentions
If you can come from a place of good intentions, you’ll instantly be 100% more likeable. Likeable people don’t do ‘favours’ to gain something in return, they do it because they are genuine about offering help. They don’t do a good deed to show others how great they are, they’ll do it regardless of who sees it. If they’re warning you about a bad business idea of a guy who looks like trouble, they will do it because they care.
Do you think I’ve hit the mark? Think I’m missing any traits here? Let me know!
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