The 10 Things Guys Wished Women Knew

Written by the guys you’re probably dating right now

One of the most searched terms on this site starts with ‘what men think of…’ so I’ll keep this intro short and get straight to the point. Because there are many things men wish you knew and rather than them telling you, they’d just prefer you read the following instead.

On Decoding Guy Behaviour….

1. Women tend to overthink what we are thinking and feeling, not what we are doing. We communicate differently, and do not operate by some weird code whereby everything we do means something else. Stop telling us ‘What we really mean’ when we do stuff. Pay attention to our actions.

2.  There’s this women code – that assumes men should just know when you’ve had a bad day, when you need affection or reassurance, that’s a code women have made up…which is probably why we don’t pick it up as you’d want us to. Tell us when you need something and we’re likely to give it to you. Please don’t make us guess.

On Public Displays of Irritation…

3. When a woman gets annoyed by something (something you’ve done) in front of friends, then spends the whole evening acting differently so that everyone knows she is annoyed, the whole night becomes awkward.

Recommendation: If it is a gathering with friends, then it should be about making sure everyone else has a good time. Speak to us at a later date about it. Trying to punish us by acting off in front of everyone else is immature.

4. Arguing or shouting in front of others – save it for later

If we ask you if it’s ok to do something and you don’t like it, then tell us. We have asked because we care and want to know your opinion, not because we wanted to annoy you.

On Making Decisions…

5. Ah your indecisiveness – If you don’t give an opinion, then we are forced to make a decision for you. As you didn’t help make the decision, then you cannot come back and have a go at us later if you don’t like it.

On Life Stuff…

6. Stop asking us about our job and salary. Women want to be liked for who they are, and so do we. We don’t want to be assessed on our material possession and if we can afford to care for the number of children you want or the lifestyle you want.

On Arguments…

7. If they can’t get over something. – if something happened 2 years ago, then stop bringing it up in an argument. If you are out to collect all the bad stuff that happens, then obviously over time it will only increase. When women say ‘You’ve got one more chance’…….in the space of the next 60 years obviously we will do something wrong, therefore women are practically waiting for us to

make a mistake.

Other Things We Want You to Know…

8. We need alone time. We enjoy alone time. This does not mean we don not enjoy time with you, or prefer time on our own to time with you. It just provides variation and helps us recharge. If we do need to think things over, then unlike women, we like to think about things on our own so that we are not influenced by others.

9. We are not projects you can fix. We are happy with who we are. If you want us to be someone else, then go find someone else. Women love the idea of ‘being wthe one who can make a guy change his ways’………which is another way of saying ‘I don’t like you, but I think you would be a good challenge that if you do everything I want, then this may work’.

10. Stop comparing our relationship to other peoples – A relationship is between 2 people…..not 10. This also means you shouldn’t talk to your friends about our personal stuff. We don’t want everyone to know what is said and happens behind closed doors.

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