Q&A with a Catch [November]

Understanding how men think is something I get asked a lot about so this week, we are resuming our Q&A with a catch sessions. We spoke to Richard, an Architect from Sydney. In this honest q&a he shares the things he looks for in a long term relationship, how he meets women plus a few things about men he wishes women knew.

1. What do you look for in a woman you date long term?

A woman who understands how to really listen i.e. listen to understand, not listen to reply. It’s makes a big difference in communication. I also look for a woman who’s her own person, someone who can keep a cool head regardless of the situation. I would love someone who is supportive of my goals and can confidently express her needs and wants, leaving no room for interpretation.

I look for someone who is polite, sweet, knows how to have fun while being aware of how fun is different for everyone. Someone who is well-organise and pretty detail orientated.

1. How do you meet women right now?

Mainly through friends, occasionally singles events.

1. Do you ever approach strangers?

Not really. It’s important for me to understand if someone meets my the things I’m looking for.

1. What are few things about men you wish women knew?

1. Men are not mind readers, the more specific you can be, the better
2. Men are people too; just because some guys tend to be insensitive it doesn’t mean we all are
3. Not all men enjoy the chase

1. What do you believe is true about relationships.

Communication is king. Both parties clearly stating what their wants and needs are is half the battle. The other half is being able to clearly map out how to achieve both or meet somewhere in the middle.

1. Fill in the blank. Women are interesting.

1. Fill in the blank. When I think of marriage I think of commitment, as well as making a much better life together than what either party could have achieved alone.

1. Do you think men are afraid of commitment?

No. People in general will only commit to something they feel is worthwhile and so, it’s not gender specific. How you go about finding out if something is worthwhile is another story altogether.

1. Why do you think men act all keen at the beginning of dating and then pull away?

Unfulfilled expectations, I’d say though, both men and women do this. People who are relatively inexperienced with relationships tend to have an image of how a relationship should pan out. When reality doesn’t match that and or it requires more work than expected, the worst things to happen would either be the relationship ending or they try to change the other person.

1. What’s the best relationship you’ve been given?

1. In order to find the partner with all your ideal inner qualities, you need to have those inner qualities yourself.
2. Never forget that your partner is a person too, with their own hopes and dreams. Treat them how you would like to be treated
3. Stay open to opportunities but stay true to your values
4. Never forget that you yourself have value

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