“I really like you but I’ve just got a lot going on at work and [insert excuse here]”.
It’s something II hear often from women who tell me that the guy they were dating was just too busy to give her the time she needed. But what he’s really saying is this –
I’m busy and don’t have time to pursue THIS relationship.
People make time for the things/people they value. If a guy says he’s too busy for you, it could mean he has other priorities that sit higher than your relationship.
When a guy says he’s too busy, he’s probably doing one of the following:
- Letting the relationship fade gently
- Creating distance between you if things are getting too serious too quickly
- He may have lost interest but isn’t a fan of confrontation
This is not to say that every guy who says he’s busy is lying. If he’s genuinely busy, he may do one of the following things:
- He might explain what projects/priorities he has going on i.e. Christmas holidays with his kids, a major deadline at work
- He makes a promise to make it up to you
- He makes future plans
If you feel he’s genuinely busy, the best thing you can do is be supportive. For example, if he’s too busy with work, offer him a home cooked meal delivered to his office. Send a courier to bring him his favourite ice cream. If he’s stressed about holidays with his kids, you could lend a hand and help him wrap gifts.
Sometimes people are genuinely busy- life gets in the way, it happens. But if a guy is consistently blowing you off for vague reasons, it could mean that he isn’t 100% into your relationship. And, who has time for that?
As we move into a new year, it’s important to remember that when it comes to success in dating, mindset is everything.
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Iona is a Wellness Coach specialising in relationships and dating. She works with single women to write their own love stories.