Love bombing is when someone showers you with their time, attention, and affection, and then once they’ve ‘wooed’ you, they use the relationship they’ve established to make the other person feel dependent on them and for them to exert control. 3 signs you’re dating a love bomber:
They seem infatuated – overly so
The beginning of a relationship is exciting but you need to watch up. It’s easy to get caught up in the feelings of falling in love but if the guy/girl you’re dating wants to move the relationship along too quickly, it’s a red flag. But infatuation can often be confused with a love bomb so see if your guy/girl also does the following:
They want to dominate your time
Some relationships are co-dependent. But if your partner wants to spend every minute of every day with you and gets upset when you have plans with your friends, it’s a red flag. Relationships need to have healthy boundaries and if your partner can’t give you that without being upset, it may lead to controlling and manipulative behaviour down the line.
You can do no wrong right now
While everyone is on their best behaviour in the first 3 months of a relationship, a love bomber will not only tell you you’re perfect but they’ll constantly shower you with compliments. They’ll make you feel like you’re on top of the world while you’re friends are probably thinking he/she is too good to be true.
All healthy relationships have independence and boundaries. It’s exciting to get caught up in the lovey stage but also know that if a relationship is meant to last, it will. So pace yourself. =)
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Iona is a Wellness Coach specialising in relationships and dating. She works with single women to write their own love stories.